I recently had the devastating experience of finding out my boyfriend of 6 years was lying and cheating on me with a trashy woman. She's divorced and has been dating all his friends, now she has him. I am pretty sure it was her doing, because he really has no initiative. He's now with the other woman, and I am so very lonely. The thought of them together while I sit home alone really bothers me. Even though he told me so many lies, I remember the good times, and I am very jealous and can't get over wanting him back. I was totally taken by surprise, he said we would still be friends and do things together, but I haven't heard from him. He said he would call to see how we were doing, my mom was in the hospital, but he hasn't called.
Can I attract a new, healthier relationship now, or is it necessary for me to be over my ex? I know logically, he was not good for me, but I still love him. I know I love the person I thought he was and not the real person he has shown me he is, but I still have these feelings.
And it's hard for me to believe I can attract someone better. If I couldn't trust someone after 6 years, how can I trust anyone, or trust myself to make the right choice?
Hi Muttgirl. Right now you need to find a feeling that makes you feel BETTER on the emotional scale. RELIEF is what you have to look for. You cannot go from beinghurt, angry, or jealous to feeling at ease and happily focusing on your perfect mate. It is normal to feel the way you do RIGHT NOW. You will be fine and yes, you will find a wonderful man who will be faithful and all the other things you are looking for in a man.
I just made a list myself with all the qualities I am looking for in my perfect mate. From looks, to personality to life style.
I am going to look for the post of the emotional guidance scale and edit this post in a minute.
I suggest you read the thread of this link also, since it gives examples of how to move up the scale.
Muttgirl, do you have Abraham Hicks books? I strongly suggest to get them. I know Amazon has "The la of attraction", "Ask and it is given" and "The astonishing power of emotions" (with a free CD) for just under $30!!
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