Can sexual attraction really, fully, expire between two people?! Should i move on, in search of better sex???
I'm 23, and met this guy 2.5 years ago, and have been with him more or less ever since, at one point living with him for a year. He's 37, and my first true long-tem relationship.
For the first 6mths or so i thought he was great in bed. But then i realised that i wasn't being satisfied. We would get all hot, only for him to come, at which point he would exit to the shower, and i would be left lying alone (to satisfy myself!!) After a while i got it together to say how unsatisfied i felt, and continually expressed this to him. He said he understood where i was coming from, and did work harder.. but then it seems like the feeling is gone from it! ie when he's just mechanically doing what he thinks he should, for longer and longer...
I find it a turn-off to have to explain to him "how to do it". I feel he should take an interest in it; do a bit of research, etc. I would like him to take charge.
I have cheated on him twice since we met. Both times with previous lovers of mine. The first time was just a one-night thing with an old boyfriend.
The second was more serious. It was with an on/off lover of mine (currently unavailable - he's studying to be a Catholic priest, and therefore supposed to be celibate, but that's another story). But more importantly, the sex with this guy was SO GOOD that i haven't been able to enjoy it with my boyfriend ever since! The chemistry is just so weak in comparison.
I feel like i am wasting my time with this guy. I really want to explore everything sexually! i am very open-minded, and, especially when i'm young, want to try everything once! But this guy, who i'm currently committing myself to, despite being 37yrs old, has never had anything other than a banal sex life (as he admits himself). As in so many other cases, apart from the sex, things are pretty good.
am i wasting my time? his time? To you who have read this far, thank you so much. Your opinion is greatly appreciated!
this is easy pick'ins. YOU'RE REACHING BOTH YOURS AND HIS EXPIRATION DATE. dump the guy who refuses to find your clit and move on. you obviously have no boundaries being that you'll do a priest in training and another guy behind this current guys' back, so why hang on to the loser? makes no sense for a young 20-something hottie to lay down with a dead dong doug who's close to 40. move on down the road and keep on cumming!
i believe you actually are wasting both your time..if the things are as you mentioned, then it is very less likely that you two would want to end up together. at least from your side, you know that you are not going to be satisfied with him.i dont think cheating on him is the best option.you will be better off with a clear break up.
i think you should indeed move on.and you should not think that it was a fault of yours.it was not.what has happened now is a very natural thing.
but the next time,dont choose to be with someone just because the sex is good.there are other things that matter too..
Sex is always better in the beginning. As time goes on you have to find ways to keep it interesting. Or find other shared interests besides waxing.
I'm sure you would soon get sick of the other 2 after a while also.
The reason you liked the priest the best is because it's wrong. Something you aren't suppose to have so you want it all the more. At least the priest isn't gay and looking for boys.
But.. not before cheating on him again. With the same priest-in-training guy. Who did not return to his seminarian studies this fall, after 4 years.
I had written a long message looking for advice on this ex-seminarian, but I became scared that he would somehow find this thread and recognize our story, so I deleted it all.
But.. the future looks bright! and HOT!
Thank you
(and maybe i'll post again when not so fearful of identity-revealing)
Glad to hear you broke up with the 37-y.o. He really deserved to be in an honest relationship with someone who wasn't cheating on him with two other men.
Hope you have found what you are looking for and will be able to hold on to it.
I applaud the former wannabe priest for finally quitting that lie he was living. The Catholic Church has a bad enough reputation as it is.
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