Well, in my case I've had to get someone to move in her house to take care of her. This has been going on now for two years and it's not working out all that great. It is expensive as the person consumes many of the household items and still they have to be paid a small but significant salary. There are many problems in trying to accomodate someone from outside into a household.
I will be faced with the decision to place her somewhere out of the home, but she fights hard against the idea. What makes it even more difficult is I'm an only child, so there's no one else to share the responsability/decisions with.
My mom dreamed she was in prison when she was in a nursing home for rehab. She doesn't want to do that ever again. And I'm for it. So I beg God to find a way, a great way. And that might include getting a roomie, or calling in nursing nuns, or kidnapping a retarded homeless woman who's kindly. I pray I will stay in shape, and she will stay in good enough shape, that we can swing it. And I also pray I can do it out of love and not guilt. And I pray you find a way, too. Mom's ninety, and the biggest problem is junkie Dr. Feelgoods who have her on a medication that is ripping her apart with Gastritis.
We have had a family member move in and it didn't work out at all. This family member has been accused of stealing medicine, not cooking or cleaning, etc......A couple of years, I mentioned assisted living for them and I was on the "bad list" for a long time for trying to interfere.
We also have a "Dr. Feel Good" who supplies as many pills as they want. There are so many pills being taken no one can count them. My Mom actually hides the narcotic pills so no one has a clue what she is taking. She has several doctors and picks and chooses which medications she tells which Dr. she takes. Crazy, huh?
There's a lot more I could say, but I will just say I am in the middle of a horror movie and I don't know how it's going to end.
My in laws both have a host of medical problems. When my father in law had a stroke, my mother in law wanted him to go to assisted living. He didn't stay for long, now she's knocking herself out taking care of him. She keeps saying she wants to send him back, but they both need to go and she can't see this. Last week, she bought a new car! She shouldn't even be driving. Now I have to make sure she doesn't try to drive my kids around. She suffers from heart problems and is constantly weak and dizzy from low blood pressure.
Why doesn't she get the help she needs! What is she waiting for?
I can only hope that when I am old, I am aware enough to do what's best for my family and friends. Thanks to curezone I'll probably live to be 110! I don't know if that's good or bad. My own mother says we should shoot her when she gets senile. I tell her I'd rather not spend my life in jail.
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