Actually, I didn't contrive those definitions, Webster did. Sorry to disappoint you. Nowhere in the (adjective) definition does it state that one *is* homosexual by being attracted to one's own sex, simply that the "attraction" is a homosexual one. One who has both homo and hetero attractions would, by definition, have bisexual attractions. One who acts sexually with members of both their own and opposite sexes would then be leading a bisexual life-style.
However, one may claim (noun) homosexual/bisexual/heterosexual as a label if one cares to solidify their sexual preferences into their personal identity.
I happen to believe we are so much more than simply whatever label someone, even Webster, puts on our sexual actions and attractions. Labels are restricting, confining, and are used quite frequently for lazy prejudging in place of individual thought.
Once again with your ending statements you have proven my point regarding your contrived (Websters) definition. Glad you agree although you go through pains to realize it.
Sorry, but I most certainly do not agree with your pronouncements that experimenting once with the same sex automatically makes one a homosexual for life, though it's interesting how you somehow believe I do. Also, if you have issues with the "contrived" definitions, please take those up with Webster. I'm done with this particular vocabulary lesson.
To each their own, and may we all find what we need.
Didn't realize you were teaching vocabulary lessons here. Appreciate the effort though. I'm sorry you can't understand how what you wrote agrees with what I already stated, maybe in time though. I just have no more inclination for these profound lessons from Noah Webster. Maybe I need more than vocabulary lessons. I'm finished for now Didn't mean to arouse your hostility. Keep teaching though!
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This just shows why pure reductionism is so limited! You connot define the human condition in formulaic equations! A+B does not always equal "c" in human spiritual or sexual terms! Hang in there Ms Peachy this guys pendantics is completely of the mark! Grog
Oh my gosh you guys I'm so confused about reaction and reactionary stuff I don't even know where to start. This is sounding like a debate forum. Whatever. It's cool that everyone is having a chance to voice their opinion. I'm just lost I guess. I never thought anyone would be interested in my question enough to warrant this many responses.
I think this maybe(just a thought) might come from the fact that my current boyfriend can't bring me to orgasm from oral sex(the only way I can orgasm) because he just doesn't understand how to. I tried explaining and demonstrating(on his hand) what feels good but it's not working and he can only go at it for about 2 mintutes before I start losing feeling down there. I guess I was kind of thinking how easy it would be for another woman to bring me to, because she knows what feels good. I end up with extreme tension from my boyfriend getting me a little stirred up down there and it's almost painful because I have no way to release it. I don't touch myself because it just doesn't work and so ya I'm just confusing myself now. I'm thinking maybe this is why these being with another woman fantasies are coming into my head. I don't know just a thought...
If it doesn't work with masturbation and it's not working with your bf then you may have to communicate better with him or buy him a video tape. If he's not willing to learn, then the other option would be to leave your bf and look for someone who is willing to please you too. I would reccommend giving masturbation another try too because it will allow you to learn more about your body.
Excellent thought. Fantasies and desires are often an answer to frustration. I think you've found your issue, as this is a MAJOR frustration!
You may want to start a new thread on how to achieve orgasm.
Basically, if you cannot bring yourself to orgasm, don't expect anyone else to be able to! You'll always be better - for you - than anyone else! LOL! :)
You need to do breathing exercises, Kegles, and perhaps discover long-buried resentments and express them. That was what started me on the road to instant orgasms. I used to be able to only orgasm from oral sex, and lots of it, now it doesn't take much at all. There are great books on a woman's sexual Chi energy that should be a great help. "The Chi of Sexual Ecstacy" I think is one, do a search and you should find plenty, or e-mail me for some of the breathing exercises.
Sugarlily- I am a heterosexual woman- and have been with plenty of woman- not as of late, as the thrill is not what it used to be, and I simply LOVE men.
You are young, life is short- and you only get one go at it.
Live without expectations, and judgements.
You don't have to explain na-ting to na-body.
I don't know first hand about the "problems" that can arise when bringing a third party into a monogomous relationship. But it's my guess you might want to venture out when you are single- this way, no one gets jealous- or hurt.
no matter what teh topic is/ you will never please very one.. lif eis a catch 22 damend i fyou do and damned i fyou don't
live your life.
my personal motto?
what lies between teh sheets styas there. it is private betwen tow peopl eof mututal consent no one eleses business
stay closed mouth in public and open mouthed in private.
communication it the road to good sexual intimacy.
and then leav eit at teh door when you exit. it is between you and your lover... tha tis the whoel meaning o f intimacy... private personalinteractiosn onlyb e tween you and loved one in a trustign environ ment.
i am not sayign youahv eto deny in debates etc your viewpoints.. but never feel you hav eto justify... no on eelse is god ove ryou / and no one has the right to make youffel liek youahve to jsutify your personal decisions it is YOUR LIFE. be respectful of others feeligns/ put honesty above all else and be open in comminication with your mate and don't make it others business.. or they will misunderstan dand think youare givign them power to tellyou wha tto do /tehn youwilljstu get mad or confused or upseeet it don't get answers youwant..
i agree totally you need ot leanr to bring your slef to orgasm.. ho w cna you expect anyone to pleas eyou if you don't knwohow to show thme? to start with... same with youbf or gf as the cas emaybe.. ask him specifiallcally to guid eyouin what pelases him.. and youall willbe worls happier fo rit. sex is supposedto be fun not an exercise in performance did you cvome? was it good? etc..
don't fake it either.. tha tis way off base.. be hones ..no i did not come... lets fool aaround with this and discover ho whte bell rings *) and dont feel liek anythign is wrong if it takes youa bit did youever get a cahemistry class right experiemnt first time out? nope...
i am celibate lol and i don't engage in masturbation either *) *laugh*
personal reasons.. let see how many folks thign i am weird rofl !!
(but you see they ahve noidea what i ahve been thru and hwa ti look like to have broguthme to that decision.
it is not a decision fo r spiritual or fear reasosn either
it is jstu a factual logical decision i mad eonmy own base d on my life goals and expectations.. and i have no e needfo rth ee sexaul out let when i get tension outlet sin other ways and ihav eno fantasy tha tflips my noggin 8)
if iever wanted to ahve sex / i woudl goafter the real thing no t a fantasy.. but tha tis not a realistic thign that willever occur again in my life so any thoguts alon gtha tlien for me are jstu wasted sepcutlation and energy that i can be using in other areas of my lif emuch more effectively. bet a mes sof folsk woudl seeme as abnormal lol bu t i don't carre.. it is MY LIFE and they can't judge me thya hav eno clue of evnet s tah thave brougth me to this decision.. the main thign is i am completely happy and at peasce with my decision 8)
Ami B.
Lots of the posts here can take a little focus to read - expected for the type site this is. Many posters are from non-English speaking countries, others are simply uneducated, many others of us here are healing from illness and injury which can affect communications. Wrenn, for example, has made remarkable strides in recovering from her accident.
Actually, it's really not that hard to read. Simply slow down and look in the spacings for "regular" word patterns around the spacing.
I couldn't understand your terminology at first (dislexic) Then I attempted to understand as I do with all people and realized you meant dyslexic. That's OK I make errors sometimes also.
You don't sound to be perverted. I would rather my partner look at porn and become excited than cheating on me. I just can't understand why you and her didn't get this issue straightened out while you were engaged.
I've been out at school and work all day so this is the first time I've gotten to check the mass thread I somehow started. Miss Ami B- you are a great person. I have some other stuff in my life right now going on and sex in any way shape or form is the last thing on my mind. I will refocus on this when I my life calms down. Thanks ya'll. I think I will head over to the PMS forum, I do believe that is where I need to be posting right now.
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