I've been with my super hot gf for 10 months now, we get along really great, she looks faboulous, she gets a lot of compliments...well everything a guy could ask for but since she's a bit of a latina-type she has like those little tiny hairs on top of her upper lip...you can't see them when u are 2 feet away but when you get close you can see them especially when there's light shining on her face...e.g. when we're outside.
So my question is : How can I tell her nicely and gently that I want her to remove those hairs since they are really bugging me. I don't want to hurt her neither that she dumps me so what should I tell her or shouldn't I say anything at all?
I have seen on tv another girl who had the same problem and she got it waxed off and it will last several weeks...I've heard that if one shaves it off it will grow back thicker...?
Ok, here goes...this lovely Latino hottie has a bit of a mustache and you know about it, she obviously doesn't. Tell her. Be a man. You could lose her, I realize that, I'm telling you exactly what Bush/Cheney05 would do because I live life to the fullest. I don't hold back. I let the chips fall where they may. I play the game to win. I just ran out of cliches. It is 50/50 at best. You've got to say something or this problem will never go away and it will bother you each and every date. Concentrate on saying it in a polite way and maybe, just maybe, you'll have the hottest, mustache-free babe by your side forever. Super-hot women have hair growing out of the stangest places, you can't expect them to find every one! Honesty. It's worth the risk...
I usually have the guts to stand up for myself and say what' on my mind but here it's different cuz I don't wanna lose her cuz she's really special to me.
I am a polite guy, yet I can't imagine any way that would make it nice and easy for her... I mean she must be embarrassed after I say that to her.
I really can't imagine what to say...
Anyone maybe got a script for me?;-)
Well, you could avoid telling her by staying more than 2 feet away from her. :-)
Sorry I couldn't resist.
There really is no good way to tell her this. As a woman I could understand how she might get embarrassed...but I'm a bit like Bush/Cheney in that I like a straight shooter.
If she came out of the ladies room trailing toilet paper would you tell her or allow her to trail it throughout the night? Personaaly I would be ticked at you if you didn't tell me.
But you know her best. Is she the type that offends easily? Does she need alot of reassuring much of the time? If she's insecure or easily offended I admit it is going to be harder to communicate this to her. Maybe you could wait for a time when you are being playful together and make a gentle joke...
Buy her a "facial makover" package at a swanky spa in town, get with the girl who does the facials. This will work, trust me on this...tell her that your girlfriend has this fuzz on her lip but you don't want to tell her about so that's why you're getting the full treatment, eyebrow waxing, plucking, whatever comes with the total package. Tell the spa gal to go about the waxing upper lip job like it's a normal part of the facial, no big deal, and to go about it like it's no biggie as not to create attention to that area. My ingenious plan will sublimally (sp?) tell her in the gentlest terms that maybe the upper lip area needs monthly attention. You get the hot hottie with no more mustache, she gets waxed and beautiful, and I get another satisfied customer on Curezone! Am I a genius or what? WOMEN OF CUREZONE...THIS IS GONNA WORK, ISN'T IT?
Yup, beingn a female, that sounds like a great idea to me. Of course I like the direct approach from my man, but if the direct approach makes you uncomfortable, then I like this suggestion.
let's see...a script. how about - hey, wow, honey. you're really hot and since i evidenly care more about your appearance than anything else, i can tell you even though you really are hot - your bit 'o fuzz on your upper lip is a turn off.
i'm sorry. but i have a hard time believing that this girl is unaware of this fuzz on her lip. so if she were NOT attractive, would you have the same hard time damaging her self esteem? as a woman, if my boyfriend told me my 'stach was a turn off, i would be horrified and would always be paranoid about how i look - do i look good enough? too hairy? maybe you have a few flaws of your own she's keeping to herself so not to hurt YOUR feelings. be thankful you have a hot girlfriend, bub.
again, i'm sorry - it just hit me the wrong way. and yes, bush/cheney had quite a sensible solution - perhaps the best way to go about it without hurting her feelings. myself, i use nair for the face - once a month. believe me, we KNOW what's going on on the upper lip. good luck.
My husband works with a lovely, attractive, intelligent woman who is very aware of her looks (gets the hair dyed, works out, dresses nice) BUT, she has the facial hair thing going on that is really distracting! She has these black hairs that come out radomly under her lip, the side of her face. She must know about it b/c sometimes they are there and other times she has removed them somehow. I have often wondered why she doesn't take care of this all the time as she is such an attractive person and these rogue hairs are distracting. At any rate, I think BC has hit on a stellar idea. Make this part of a spa package treatment. She will probably want to tell you all that they did to her "They plucked this and pulled that..." and then you can ohh and ahh...She may want you to be next and go get your back waxed! lol....only fair....Good luck.
well if you cant afford a spa package you could just try tactful honesty.
i would just say:
i dont want you to hate me or get angry but i noticed the otherday you have bit of fuzz on your lip.
its just something that distracts me because you are so beautiful to me. i really didnt want to tell you this because i didnt want to hurt your feelings or make you mad. but it bothers me. are you mad that i said something?
is there anything about me that you would like to see changed?
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opening yourself to contructive critisizm lowers the defensive reaction in others. she may be a bit pissed and rip into a little...but the hair may go as well as some of your nasty dude things that you are probably oblivious too.
:)
Thanks for giving me this great advice but I think after my first sentence she would be so mad with me that I wouldn't be able to finsish my sentence and to ask her if she'd like to see something changed about me...
I really have to figure out a really really gentle way to tell her this...
It's weird cuz she shaves EVERYWHERE so why doesn't she see it when she looks herself in the mirror??
I bet she would be pretty pissed off or hurt if someone told her ...I've realized that there is no ideal situation and since we're both students we don't really don't have that much time to go to a stylist or sumpin...
plus her mom is quite sick but since she needs me i gotta be by her side a lot more than usually which means that i get to see those hairs even more which make me freak out...it's kinda vicious circle...
well it seems that you are not comfortable to be this honest with her yet. maybe work on making your relationship more meanful and then a little comment on a easily solvable problem wont be anything other than a casual part of a conversation.
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