Re: cheating

unconditional love is unconditional... you either love him or you don't... the hurt you feel is of your own making... it happens because you allow it... it happens because the 'ego' is hurt/offended... bottom line is either you forgive... or you don't... which is it...???

if you love him and wish to continue in your relationship with him you must find the way to forgive and forget... your love... if it is true love... is untouched/unblemished... so now... it has now become a trust issue... what do you think...??? can this man be trusted...??? if not... you need to call it quits with him... trust and love go hand in hand together... one cannot exist without the other... and in todays world with so many new diseases floating around it is not advisable to live with someone that is still interested in playing the field... it is to much like playing russian roulette...

but obviously you do love him... so... tell him so... he probably already knows how much he has hurt you... and will likely not do it again... on the other hand... perhaps you should question his love for you... ask him if he is unhappy with you... if so... what can you do to change the way he feels... does he want to continue his commitment to your marriage... if not... dissolve it and go you separate ways...
the whole idea is that you both have to be totally honest with each other... without honesty and trust there is no relationship... and it definitely takes two to make a relationship work... without honesty and trust there can be no relationship... it becomes very one sided... and only gets worse...

your problem is typical of what is happening in the entire world today... the cure as i see it... lies in conquering ones 'ego'... this is the biggest problem with society... so ones quest is to get to know ones inner most Self... and to be true to ones Self... find the love that exists within you and hold fast to it... understand that most people in the world today... (and your husband is no exception)are very fragmented individuals and have no idea who they truly are... and as such... are always feeling like something is missing in their lives... therefore they are always seeking something... or someone... outside of themselves to make them complete...

this is all probably over your head... but hope you understand enough that it helps you in some way...

just remember...
"it's a wonderful day in the neighborhood"...
and...
"only you can prevent forest fires"...
lol...
;-)

Alert Webmaster & Moderators