Thanx everyone for the support. I guess thats what I needed most. I have only told 2 people about this so I dont have anyone to really talk to about it. I dont want any of my friends or family to know what happened. Anyway, I am only staying for me because that's what I need. I told him I wouldnt stay for him or the kids because honestly at this point what he wants doesnt matter as far as I'm concerned. I am only staying because I love him like crazy. I think he does understand what he has done & how bad he screwed up. But of course I am worried, will there be a next time 10 yrs from now? I dont know. Can he refuse someone if they put themselves in front of him & offer it? If there is I cant live through it again. I have made that clear. This woman was not a coworker or anything like that. She is just someone who lives close by. She decided to stop one day when I wasnt home (which isnt often) & tell him how much she liked him. She took him in my house & basically made a pass at him & it went from there. Then she had the nerve to become friends with me after that and act like nothing ever happened. Hindsight: I should have checked his Cell Phone
records sooner, I should have asked more questions when she would be here when I got home. When I would leave to go to the store she would come to my house. I should have known when there was something about her I didnt like to stick with my instinct. I didnt want to be the "jealous wife" & accuse him or her of something I wasnt sure of. Anyway bottom line is I just cant get over it. I want to move. I hate my house (because of what happened here). This was my dream house. Yes, he knows he has ruined that for me. Thanks for listening. You guys are great!!