Sometime back, we shared quite a lot of private emails but I won't add any information here that would bring specific information to this post.
Whether things have changed drastically since that time, I can't comment .. but if you are still in a similar place, then I would say that the Louise Hay description is quite accurate for you. It was what I observed of you anyway.
What is clear to me is that our shadow side is very difficult to see, quite simply because it is the side we not only want to hide from others, but the side that we want to hide from ourselves too. These are the traits that we dislike the most in others, the traits that we would feel embarrased to own, the traits that we are most ashamed of.
The shadow is the disowned self, the Id ... Carl Jung writes a lot on it. He said "One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light but by making the darkness conscious"
Our shadow selves are often so well disguised, the more extreme a physical issue, the more deeply the shadow is hidden, making it near impossible for the self to see or accept it. It is only if one is able to fully trust anothers observation that some movement can occur.
The more extreme a physical issue, the more it hides the shadow that allows it to heal/balance. For example, someone who wears the shell of a tough guy is hiding the shadow of a vulnerable and sensitive person, or the over jolly person is masking the sad person inside.
Most people don't get very far unconcealing their shadows because they're unwilling to be totally honest with themselves. The ego doesn't like to lose control. The ego is always fearful of its own dealth and is forever trying to keep alive the fiction of its own existence.
So deeply hidden shadows will never resonate.
To balance the ears/hearing is to align the poles of self-centredness and submissiveness.
The ears are about letting it in, a passive type of letting in (whereas the eyes are an active type of letting it in), an allowing attitude to be obedient and submissive to others.
So, deafness is a stubborn inflexibilty to allow others to guide or inform.
Debbie Ford has good books on doing shadow work and also look at Carl Jung's work for more information.