Re: Mirena hell: does it cause stress/urge incontinence?

Well Jenny, I am a guy, but I do know what you're talking about. I've my wife has had Mirena for over a year and a half. About a month after our last child was born, my wife decided to go to the doctor and have it put in. BIG MISTAKE. We couldn't have sex the month before because she tore during birth. However, she was sexua| in other ways like normal. About a week after having this thing placed, she had no desire. Even when she wasn't in the mood before, she could get in the mood quickly. Our doctor told us it was probably a bad reaction to the child birth. Maybe, but I doubt it.

Anyways, after a month of having this thing in, my wife was changing rapidly. Her hair began to fall out. Bad. The tub was always covered with her hair. She had a back problem that bugged her. After a month, she was in so much pain, she couldn't sleep without having to lay in the tuck and cover position. Her breasts begain to swell and look purple because they could not handle it anymore. They were sensitive and always hurt. She had serious hip problems that extended down her legs. Her feet were always cold even after a hot foot bath. She could not sleep. She couldn't eat without getting sick. Yet she gained weight fast. She had frequent headaches. She began getting moody, withdrawn. Always highly irritable. Ex. "Pass the salt" "What my foods not good enough for you?" Yeah, little things set her off. She was always anxious. Money wasn't a problem, but she always thought if we spent more than we usually did we'd have to live on the streets. Depression. No sex drive. We were going almost a month without having sex because she didn't feel like it. She couldn't lubricate properly when we did. She is always depressed for no reason. Our doctor referred us to a relationship therapist. Yeah, we fought sometimes, but never that bad. We always made up. She's exhausted all the time. Even after getting good sleep.

The problems that began after this thing was inserted were horrible. My wife had never acted like that. She was very sexual. We used to have sex 5 times a week sometimes twice a day. We still did while she was pregnant with our last child. Our doctor had my wife convinced it was everything but Mirena. She still is skeptical. Changes like these just don't happen coincidentally after a procedure like this. Even more so a month and a half after the baby was born and she had no ill effects until this thing went in.

Well, here's the sad part of my story. After two years of having this thing in, my wife asked for a divorced. We're getting divorced in three months. She has been like this for so long. She did have pre-existing problems with mental health, but very mild. Sometimes she would get worried. Sometimes a little sad. She always got over it in a day or so before Mirena. After Mirena, she is always like that. Making it worse is the physical problems. She has agreed to get it taken out next week. Maybe the effects will depart within the next three months and she will realize that this thing was hurting her that bad. I've heard stories of women taking months to get over the effects. I've heard of women that never got over it. This thing ruined our marriage. This thing made my wife into something she had never been before in her life. Nothing was mild, severe problems hit almost instantly after insertion. Our doctor lied to us and told us that it was the childbirth. Now our relationship cannot be fixed. There is no way this was all a coincidence.

Mirena does not affect everybody the same. However, my wife has always had bad reactions to birth control. She quit taking three different forms of the pill because she was hit with depression so bad she couldn't get out of bed. People like my wife are getting hit like this everyday. Those who are fine blame everything else for the changes. However, if it worked for them fine, but thousands of women suffering the same problem is no coincidence. Get it taken out if you are experiencing any problems. Don't listen to your doctor. They get a nice fat paycheck to promote this thing. They shouldn't argue with you if you're having trouble with it or think you are. You know how it goes. Doctors aren't paid to argue with you, they're paid to respect your wishes. We suggested this to a different doctor my Mother-in-law has seen for years. No argument. He says he's heard of this happening. He told me that he always asks questions and suggests removal if any of the more serious signs appear.

Mirena bad. I'm getting snipped if my marriage does not end. I'll store semen. A few vials to make sure. I don't want my wife to suffer anymore. She's not my wife anymore anyhow. I don't know what she is. She's become a monster. Hopefully after getting it removed next week, I'll see the wife I always loved staring back at me. What I see now.....I don't know.

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