Re: kwazy wabbit

EF, I know that this was not directed to me but feel the need to defend myself.

"The point is that her response as described in her post was way disproportionate to the circumstances."

Why? I flew halfway across the globe leaving my three little children with my husband for a week (I'm a stay at home mom and have never gone ANYWHERE for more than one *day* without seeing them so this was a BIG thing for me). We had both planned out this trip. And when I got there she could barely interact with me, leaving me to basically fend for myself in a foreign country. How am I responding "disproportionately"?

"She *expected* her friend to not follow the dictates of her religion. When I visit a friend who is following the dictates of their religion, I am respectful of those, and, realize that they are my friend because of the way they are, religion and all."

I did not *expect* my friend to *not* follow the dictates of her religion. I *fully* expected her to follow them! I didn't know about Shavuot all of the nuances, rituals, prayers, etc. of her religion. I didn't realize that I was going to be left alone in a foreign country. When she and her husband came to visit us for two days the year before she told me what she needed to be comfortable. So I *happily* went out and got new cooking utensils, silverware, cups as she said that she could not use anything that had ever touched anything non-kosher. I served only kosher meals (I was surprised to find out that almost everything I eat is Kosher anyways!). I made sure to give her and husband space and an entire room for prayer (Not easy with little ones and a small-ish house, but again I was *happy* to do it since I cared about her. I Got her to her parents before Shabbat so that she would not have to use transportation during that time. I did all that I could to make her comfortable this way. When I visited her, I went with her to Synagogue (yes, I had a bad experience but I *went* for *her* because she wanted me to). Also she prayed aloud to me at her apartment and I had no problem. I have never prevented her from following the dictates of her religion! I feel that you were assuming something untrue from your statement.

"As for the historical aspects of anti-semitism, she displayed several of them. Whether she is one or not remains to be seen."

I wanted to ask what the "several historical aspects of anti-semitism" were that I was displaying but then decided against it. If you believe this to be so, then so be it and I am sorry for having offending you. I have no hatred for any religion. I don't feel that we are our religions. I simply love my best friend regardless of what religion she practices. I feel that you are being prejudiced against me with this statement.

Take care,
-El

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