***Finding ways to express emotions...

I feel your pain in what you have written... my eyes are wet.. i want you to read something i have been waiting to tell others for some time... i guess this is a good enough time to say it...

We have all been conditioned to be masochists…
For all the governments to be able to maintain so many people living together,
all the nations of this world have created overly-moralistic and emotionally-oppressive societies for the people that reside under their rule. And, the most oppressed group of individuals on the planet are the children of each of these societies. The child comes into this world full of innocence. Upon his very first breath... the stripping of this innocence from him begins with a slap from the doctor... Such a welcome???

Discovering the world on his own... without the interference from others... now, this would be a very rare individual indeed... but it is most definitely not the case...

The awe and the wonder of it all has somehow been quickly stolen away.
The more the child lives his life, the more he finds it is not his life to live.
He is told what is good, what is bad, what is right and what is wrong… what he can’t do and what he can… soon the child is lost … in the name of ‘good intentions’, he will be made to properly fit into the society …becoming a good conformist…

Conformity means that the child will be a useful cog in the wheel of the society. So that society’s survival is ensured …but not necessarily the child’s own survival. In fact, it is at the cost of the child’s physical and mental well-being that the society survives ...that is the price that is paid... so the society can go on surviving... and for the child --he will be put into an early grave...

As a consequence... as part of society's plan... the expression of most emotions that arise in an individual is unacceptable in most social settings. One cannot cry in public... show their displeasure or their anger... Even laughter, at times, must be held inside so as not to be seen or heard by others… so others are not embarrassed …or put in awkward situations...

So... the society has developed a strategy for its members… they are to ‘control’ themselves… and, with this, society can go on functioning normally... the strategy is called 'repression' or 'suppression' of one's emotions ...so that other members of society will not be disturbed... and the pace of society will remain unobstructed...

the child is taught this early on... so when he matures into an adult, it appears to be a natural course in the living of one's life... it becomes an automated response to a countless number of situations...

Over years of ‘controlling’ one’s emotions… of pushing this energy back inside from where it comes… it finds a place to hide, where it will not be seen by others. .. This unexpressed energy lodges itself somewhere within... to be held there, so as not to be ever seen or heard by others ...it finds its way deep into some muscle, into some connecting tissue, into some organ …somewhere deep into the subconscious it goes, as well... and, for everyone it is different…

This causes a certain amount of stagnated energy to accumulate within the body-mind of the individual… But energy is meant to move! If it is prevented from moving on its natural course, it will then move in a perverted way! ...In this perverted form, it can do a lot of damage to the body-mind mechanism….

Over time one becomes as if sitting on top of a volcano of pent-up emotions and physical stress within, ready to explode… at the slightest scratch of the skin... but one must always keep a smiling face… hiding the reality of it from others …so that no one will ever find out about this secret that is buried inside...the hidden volcano. One can even fool himself into believing that there is not a problem... as long as he says “hello”… “good morning"... "how are you”... with a smiling face. Hence, this unexpressed energy can do tremendous harm to the body-mind mechanism…

And so what is the way out of this dilemma? --To stop hurting oneself!
If one truly loves himself ...then, one will not be masochistic any longer! …then, it is of utmost importance to find ways to express this energy that has been stuffed back inside for so long…
I suspect this is a central reason for the adrenal fatigue problems that arise in this society... in all societies... along with the diet that helps one to remain distracted from seeing what is buried within... along with the countless other habits and activities one pre-occupies himself with... so the ugly mess that one has created for himself is never encountered... One can live his entire life avoiding this inner reality... but then could this really be called a life? ...maybe, the best label... would be to call it a dead life... or psuedo-life... or a sad life... but certainly not a very joyful one

Understanding this is...is the beginning... and truly loving oneself is the cure… this means, finding ways to express the emotions that are held back within body-mind is part of the cure… consider it another type of cleanse for the body and mind...

Get to the gym …go for a run… but get your emotions involved in the activity...go into your closet with a pillow and scream the frustration out of you… the anger -out of you... the tears and sadness -out of you... do not be afraid... it is natural… do whatever you need to do to become clean of all the garbage that has been collected over the years and is held inside of you….

It sounds crazy… yes! It is! ...that’s exactly what society has been encouraging you to do to yourself… sinking more and more into a kind of madness! …it is time to reclaim your sanity... and to start living life on your own terms... it is for your own physical and mental well-being… it is a matter of choosing life over death!

at least consider this possibility...
peace in loving

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