Re: Not a slight problem

"I'm still in pretty good shape so I don't think I'll have any trouble finding someone else. "

You have to be joking, right? Find someone else? Unless you take your Self (that Life's Spark that makes you a unique human being) by the horns, you'll be "finding someone else" for the rest of your life.

Life is NOT "all about me," what I think I deserve, how much respect I feel I deserve, or any other similar motive. It's not about how good I look, how new my vehicle is, how many boxes of jewelry I have, OR what I believe someone else owes me. Life is about how I will affect other people in a positive way. I affect positive energy because I AM positive.

My husband and I live on a very tight budget, and we have from the beginning. However, I would much rather count pennies with him at the dining room table and laugh our heads off over one of our adventures together than sit alone in a McMansion with a Hummer in the driveway and build an empty, lonely existence for my Self.

"To tell you the truth I think its allready too late. He doesn't want to go through another Summer with me at the cottage so I think by next Spring he'll be gone no matter what I do between now and then."

So, the idea is to just give up, then? Forget about the years that he's tried to support you and just fool yourself into believing that you'll be able to snag another husband to see to your needs? Perhaps, you'll meet up with MY ex, my dear! He'll wine you, dine you, tell you what a wonderful person you are and...once you've entered into that legal, binding contract of marriage, he'll burn you down and leave you in emotional, physical, sexual, financial, spiritual, and mental tatters.

If it were me, I'd be looking for the toughest marriage counselor that I could find and start doing the work to change my Self, right now. Not only might this save my marriage, but it would TEACH MY DAUGHTER about what BEING A WOMAN means: taking responsibility for our Selves and giving back of our Selves. Your daughter is watching you, closely, and you haven't taught her anything positive about being an empathetic, sympathetic, caring, loving, independent, self-sufficient human being.

For crissakes, the LAST thing you need, my dear, is "someone else."

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