I think it's.. when people get to a point where they're fatigued and frustrated from the constant battle with themselves. I've been told when people reach a level or consistency of pain they're uncomfortable with is when change occurs. I believe emotionally you can reach that point, too.
I'd like to continue hiding in my corner and doing that which silences my many emotions, but - it's not getting me anywhere.
yes, very well said. i think you are seeing some things there. its true you can get addicted to your own pain and close down and circle your emotional wagons and never let any one or thing in, but of course then you are also shutting down any possibility of love and light and healing to come in and make things better. i speak from experience. keep going.