Sizism and Recovery
Why treat large-sized people with judgment and prejudice? Nothing better to do?
Date: 4/6/2007 6:44:15 PM ( 14 y ) ... viewed 1786 times
Date: 3/3/2007 5:06:10 PM
I could keep this issue distant enough from me to speak about it in the third person, as if it all didn't happen to me, but honestly, it did.
Well, it happened within 3 feet of me, although it was not specifically personally directed toward me.
I finally got myself to a meeting of my 12-step program of choice, one I have participated in, including thousands of hours of service work, for most of my many years in recovery in the area where I attend meetings.
This meeting has been especially dear to my heart, as I was one of the humble group that started it. When I go there, it thrills me to see the same little purple "Just for Today" book that I wrote "OUR BOOK" on the side of, the first time the group ever met, in 1994 or so. It's a bit tattered, but still holding together. The book, I mean.
Because of my fully scheduled life these days, I don't get to as many meetings as I used to in my early days of recovery. This group is focused specifically on recovery from the disease of ADDICTION, referring to drug addiction, which includes alcohol and addictive prescription drugs as well as "street" drugs.
I was thrilled to be able to get to a meeting to celebrate, & to be meeting a friend there who recently achieved 13 years in recovery, as I had, in January.
Confidentiality is crucial for these meetings so I cannot go into specific details. Although people of all sizes and shapes and ages and genders were there, nothing prejudicial or judgmental about anyone was said, except for large-sized people. Fat is the word that's generally used when such comments are made.
There was one reference to fat people during the meeting, when someone insinuated that fat people couldn't possibly have a good Valentine's Day, since it was apparently assumed that fat people do not have relationships and cannot attract and remain with another person in a relationship.
Then after the meeting was over, in a conversation outside the meeting hall, two ladies were talking about how someone who was "fat" after childbirth wouldn't be attractive to any men and had to lose weight before she would become an acceptable human being again.
Arrggh! Of course, I didn't speak up. I just remained present in the sidelines, fuming, within.
We larger size people have the right to exist in the present moment, being exactly who we are, and exactly what size we are, and we have the right to feel attractive, and in fact to be attractive, as ourselves, not as some imagined thin & trim ideal future being!
I'm fine with myself as I am. I'm not going to buy into someone else's sizist judgments.
I'm furthermore not going to argue with these people. I will just get angry and possibly make a fool of myself. Better to "vent" with trusted friends afterwards, rather than make a scene among SIZISTS. Making scenes often doesn't do any good.
As I'm getting healthier, and more balanced, perhaps I will streamline to a lower weight eventually.
For health reasons, that would be welcome. I'd have quite a wardrobe to recycle though. And I do enjoy my clothes!!
I haven't been back to anymore of my 12 step group's meetings in my area. Eventually I'll go. These sizist comments are probably the exception rather than the norm, as I don't recall hearing comments like this before.
Even though this blog message feels almost as though it's not complete, I will submit it, and then add to it as I get more information. I've "Googled" the terms sizist and sizism and find them often interlinked with feminism, and many of the articles I'm finding are from the 90s and early 2000s. Perhaps that's the most current internet information there is. If you have interest in looking into the subject, simply go to your favorite search engine and look up the terms sizist and sizism.
Thank you for listening,
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