Hi: Maybe you're married already, but I'll still write, also for the others that may be thinking of getting married.
I was married a few years ago and was also a virgin (in my 30's). In today's society, that's very rare, and it's more rare that the groom is virgin also. Well, thank God I married a christian man who had saved himself for his wife. And I think that's the best of all. Both being virgins we had some idea of what to expect, but each couple is different. People used to tell me that going into a marriage without experience wasn't good. Who cares! You don't need experience, especially if your hubby doesn't have experience either, you both discover, learn and make it better each time. I think that, same as we're going back to the way our ancestors took care of their bodies without modern medicine, also we should take care of our sexual life the way our ancestors used to. It's not only the people that were born and raised in the 30's, 40's and 50's. It's all a matter of self respect and respect to the other person. Imagine getting married without fearing AIDS or any other STD's, not thinking how many people has your partner been with, or comparing him/her with another person. Just getting married out of pure love and respect and then starting that special journey with your special one. Society, TV, radio, internet, books (it's everywhere) is teaching kids that you should use some kind of birth control when you have sex and how important it is to prevent any STD's, but never do they say that the best way of preventing it is by not having any, and of course they would NEVER mention the respect you should have for your own body. I was taught self-respect, and that God made my body to use it with respect and to be careful what I do with it, eating healthy being one of them. And I'm proud to say I was married still a virgin, I married a virgin, and will teach my kids that same self-respect so they can enjoy life in its fullest without having worries that shouldn't even be there in the first place. So congratulations to all that decide not to have sex until you're married. Even though the first few days will be hard : ), it's worth it!! Experience comes with time, especially when you're with the same man!!!