Dating, internet or not, is a game of chance. There are Christian dating services on the net, have you tried those? Any singles activities in your church or other, similar churches? If you keep at it, I am sure you will find someone, but I would not rely on the net exclusively. I would also be very choosy as to which services I used...and not hesistate to pay rather than sticking to the free ones. I would also use more than one....make sure I had really good pictures of me...and put a lot of creative effort into my profile - and be very clear about what I want in a man...not that they listen.....

I would also not hesistate to answer ads myself if I saw one that really interested me.

I am 60 and have used the net several times with absolutely no success...but others have found the love of their lives this way. At this point, if I went back on, I might lie just a tad about my age, as in spite of the fact that I still have a great figure and no wrinkles to speak of, at 60 I am not likely to come up on most men's searches, as they would cancel me out because anything over 50 something is off their age reqirements. That, of course is up to you. If we got to the point of actually meeting, I would "confess" right away.

When the internet was in its infancy, "meeting" people online was almost safe. As internet access expanded and evolved (now, camming, etc., is par for the course), it has devolved from a helpful tool into a dangerous, risky addiction for many people.

If I were trying to meet with some people who shared my same values and beliefs, I would look to local establishments, support groups, hobby groups, etc. In that manner, I would be able to read individuals with regard to their body language, their facial expressions, their vocal inflections, etc. Online, people may invent ANY PERSONA THAT THEY WISH in order to bait, lure, and ensnare another human being for whatever purposes they are trolling for. My ex has gone through 9 women (at the least) in as many years using the internet. People who have NPD find that the internet provides the perfect environment to bait, lure, and ensnare a constant and varied narcissistic supply source - almost like going to a candy store with a blank check.

I used to be an AOL Chat Host for a particular "chat room." One of the "people" who used to frequent the chat always had some sort of drama going on in "his" life. First, he claimed that his wife was going to leave him but suddenly became pregnant and everything was wonderful after the baby had allegedly been born. Then, this person claimed to have authored a number of novels, etc., but nobody could ever seem to find the titles or the author's name to verify. Then, this person claimed to have come down with bone cancer - people were SENDING THIS PERSON MONEY to help cover the costs of a new marrow transplant. Then, this person dropped off the radar.

The next thing I know, I'm being contacted by the FBI because this man was actually a single, middle-aged woman living in Denver, CO who had several internet accounts and ID's and had been found murdered in her apartment. The FBI was contacting everyone on her emailing lists, had done some forensic technology work on her computer, and they were scouring the Nation for some sort of leads.

Internet dating can be successful, but it can also be disastrous. Only you can make the right choice for yourself on this issue!

Best wishes to you!!!

I think it's a joke but some may find it useful and actually really find someone on there. There are thousands of stories of people who met on the net and just started out writing emails back and forth and things went from there. But usually you have to speak the same language as the other and actually write them back or say something to convey feelings of some sort. Otherwise the person assumes....

Soulful makes very good point. No matter where you meet someone, (the net, the supermarket,even in church) if he does not come with a solid referral, (and even if he does) before getting involved you should check him out with an invesitation service to make sure he is who he says he is, he is not loaded with debt, he has no criminal record... he is not married, etc. etc. The bank account you save may be your own....

I met my husband on the internet (eHarmony) and he is wonderful! I think you can meet people anywhere b/c I have. Good luck! :-)