"There ARE women out there that purposefully use men. I've been a victim of that several times. Looks like I fell for it again this time too that's all. My fault. I should know better."
I think you focus too much on the evil women out there who use men. There are just as many men out there using women. I also recommend Life Strageties. I think you are afraid of thinking rationally and logically about women and relationships. I am thinking part of your payoff is to write in forums anonymously against women and feel somehow vendicated just a little.
"Life's supposed to be fun not beset with unresolvable problems that are entirely my fault to begin with."
Amazon.com Audiobook Review
Author and reader Phillip McGraw is at the forefront of a group of self-help gurus rethinking Americans' decade-plus-long celebration of victimhood. Calling himself a realist, he outlines 10 ways to take responsibility for and change your life. ...side B dives quickly into the meat of the audiobook, featuring anecdotes from McGraw's own life and the 10 "Life Laws"--the rules by which McGraw believes the world plays.
Life Law #2:You create your own experience. Strategy: Acknowledge and accept accountability for your life. Understand your role in creating results.
You cannot dodge responsibility for how and why your life is the way it is. If you don't like your job, you are accountable. If you are overweight, you are accountable. If you are not happy, you are accountable. You are creating the situations you are in and the emotions that flow from those situations.
Don't play the role of victim, or use past events to build excuses. It guarantees you no progress, no healing, and no victory. You will never fix a problem by blaming someone else. Whether the cards you've been dealt are good or bad, you're in charge of yourself now.
Every choice you make — including the thoughts you think — has consequences. When you choose the behavior or thought, you choose the consequences. If you choose to stay with a destructive partner, then you choose the consequences of pain and suffering. If you choose thoughts contaminated with anger and bitterness, then you will create an experience of alienation and hostility. When you start choosing the right behavior and thoughts — which will take a lot of discipline — you'll get the right consequences.