Not trying to be a victim. Could care less that I've been one a couple of times in life. Who hasn't? Life goes on.
If I've offended any of you girls out there my sincere appologies. I have no hidden desire to get even with women. I even liked my mother. Have always had great respect for women. I love em....
But there is a certain frustration level that I now fully understand when it comes to us guys trying to please our wives.
Was talking to an 86 year old guy a couple of months ago. He came right out and told me: "I'm going to divorce her. Been with her for over 60 years and I still don't know what pleases her". I watched my father die because he didn't have a clue what his wife wanted. Couldn't please her.
It's like because I have been lucky enough to have success in my life and I get along well with people and am enjoying life tremendously there has to be something, anything, that I fail at. And that's not my mindset. All I'm saying is I don't understand and at this stage of life don't really care anymore.
I know within myself that I did the best I could in all areas of life and failed when it came to women. Didn't want to fail, didn't have the mindset to fail, was always supportive of any of their endevors, was sober, nonjudgemental, always tried to help them if they needed it, encouraged their creative side, remembered birthdays and anaversaries. Did everything I know to love and respect them.
It didn't work, so I thought I'd ask.
And of course, what you're saying is that it's my fault.
So be it... No victim here, just accepting the facts. Read all the books, did all the lectures, watched the videos and dvds. Many of which you mention.
It's okay Harleygyrl. Again, I'm truly sorry if I offended you. I just thought I might find out how to please my wife. Give it one last shot before I give up. Then I guess I'll find out what that freedom is they say is so great. Always envisioned myself going through life with a mate though.