I just quit within myself. It didn't change the way I treated her. It was obvious to me that she had a much better life before she met me and I finally accepted that. With me she's sick most of the time and just doesn't have any fun, won't participate. Her own daughter even mentioned it to me. "How come Moms sick all the time, she never smiles or has any fun?" Yes, we know all about Natural Healing and there's no physical reason for her to be sick.
Well, that's hard to live with. When you see your own mate sick and miserable all the time. You just know she does't like you. So, I accepted that.
Over the Summer at the cottage I would say to myself "Pretend you're alone". It's hard to be around someone when you know they don't like you, when you know it's you that's making them sick. So I pretended I was alone so I could at least enjoy the Summer at the lakeshore. Well, her daughter and I enjoyed the Summer anyway.
And at the end of the Summer I just accepted within myself that it was the last Sunmmer I would spend with her over there.
So specifically what I quit was seeing any kind of future with her. Why would I want to spend the rest of my life with someone I made sick and miserable? It wouldn't take her long to find someone else. At least then she'd be able to enjoy life a bit. So I quit seeing my future with her in it and pretended I was alone already. It worked too, I had a pretty good Summer.
AND, I really don't care if I'm alone for the rest of my life. My professional life is pretty busy and there's a few more things I can get busy with also. And I really do appreciate my alone time, especially at the cottage.
So I just pretended I was alone so I could start getting used to it. Which, of course means, I stopped seeing my future with her in it. I've said this before, I just want to see her happy. If I don't do it for her then I have to let her go find someone who does. Enough is enough.
I quit seeing her and I together. No future with her. I quit.