I'm shocked that so many people are reporting the same basic experiences that suggest that either:
1) Those that we should be able to trust are lying to us or have blocked it out for so long that they genuinely believe what they say.
2) The problem manifests itself only in certain situations and can be switched on and off like a light.
3) There is a real problem but most people subconsciously react to it (only a few consciously react).
4) The problem really is psychological.