If you actually read what I wrote, you'll notice that I DID criticize your advice, you're only REACTING defensively by ignoring that TRUTH (are you not dedicated to "the TRUTH"?...who was it that said that they are the TRUTH?).
Aside from being faulty because it was in defense of "WRONG"/injustice (the boyfriend), it lacked true compassion (SORROW for the person who is suffering misfortune).
If you actually read what the original poster wrote, you'll see what the issue (the problem that needs a solution) is.
(especially this part)...
"I always thought I was a strong confident person and now I FEEL DEFEATED AND PATHETIC" (to some people, this is a clue).
Do you see? The real issue is not how much "Fun" she can have, she would like "peaceful joy and serenity", nor is it that she should compensate for a jerk and belittle herself, nor is it that she should belittle herself and settle for his abuse, and neither is it that she needs to satisfy him by losing weight or to be satisfactory to to the world by being a model.
It is generally considered "good", "nice", "wise", and compassionate to actually HEAR/understand what a person is saying/writing instead of what you want to think they are saying/writing so you can simply tell them to "Get over it" (for good reason, they feel like reacting by telling you to "Go f&%# yourself" IN CASE YOU DIDN'T KNOW, guess why,...what are they going to do, thank you for your compassion????).
(dedicated to the truth, John 14:6)