If the word "fix" doesn't resonate, think of it differently. We're all on a continuum of health. There is always room to improve. My marriage is great yet I constantly watch for ways to improve me and us. Maybe that's WHY it is so great. You speak as if you're unhappy about some of this stuff, then say there is no action to take? That makes no sense to me. Your post appears to be talking about things that are making you feel bad (that's what frowny faces are for). If you're just narrating and not interacting, then there would be no need for us to respond anymore.
But I saw you on the LOA forum trying to take some action, so I simply don't believe you when you say you don't want change. You do and you don't (we all do and we all don't). There's an equation that works here: desire to change must be greater than the resistance to change. For some people, the pain has to be great enough to outweight the pain of not changing. Luckily for me, the desire to change is driven by something other than pain. But if resistance to change is greater, then no matter how much you analyze and narrate the situation, your working to 'understand' it is not going to help you feel better at all.
I do hope in the end, all this stuff ends up being helpful to you. I think we all would like to see you happy.