The fact that you are even thinking about how to make the relationship grow and how to develop a deeper connection based on more than sex earns you many "Yipee!!!" points.
The fact that you are even thinking about different ways to earn her esteem - shows that you are maturing by leaps and bounds.
The fact that you are beginning to recognize that honesty, communication and trust are the pillars of a working relationship - mean that even if this realtionship ends up not being "THE ONE" - you will have moved miles ahead on your journey to becoming a more well rounded partner in a fun, respectful, two way street, partnership. True satisfaction. Never dull - and don't expect "no fighting" - that would mean someone is always holding things in.
You are moving in the right direction kid - good for you...
And no one ever said there should not be lots and lots of great mind blowing, nurturing sex as well. But of course!! No duh!