"Normal relationships between human beings include the possibility of error and reparation, which are handled in a loving context of acceptance and forgiveness"
Uh, WHAT is there to forgive? Child molestation? Lovely words, but what are you talking ABOUT? WHOM are you "forgiving" and for what? You make it sound like there is something you already know about and have chosen to ignore and "forgive".
Sorry, but a mother that doesn't check out EVERY possibility to ensure her child hasn't been molested in the face of such obvious acting-out is in denial or collusion.
I'm sure you are frustrated...imagine your frustration when in her later years you may find out the worst and realize you couldn't bother to check it out. When your child blames you for not being aware enough to save her? If she becomes promiscuous like most molested little girls?
Taking YOUR hand and placing it on her genitalia is NOT normal and she will repeat the behavior with others. Sandover, did you OR your daughters or ANY child you know run around attempting to get adults to spank the monkey them? That is LEARNED behavior, as opposed to charming stories about rubbing the couch! Definitely not normal behavior.
If you care about your child, you will make SURE this hasn't happened and set your mind at ease. Blithely ignoring ("Thanks, everyone, bye-bye") it is not the answer and NOT in the best interests of the child.
We are not living in the past where possible abuse is ignored as one's own business; today we know it's everybody's business.