First of all, I sincerely apologize for taking forever and 2 days for responding to you. Just like everyone else, I've been sooooo swamped at work. (I lead a fairly normal life, except that I drink all of my pee, stare into the sun, and eat raw chocolate and goji berries all day. :-)
I agree with your counselor about living an integrated life... but it doesn't mean you have to be wide open about everything to everyone. You can be discreet and open up to people as you are intuitively guided to. Follow your intuition and be very discerning about who you open up to... Opening up too fast to too many people could leave you in a vulnerable position, and even a compramised position. Be careful, but do include people into your "real" life. It's nice to have a circle of friends/family members that are your knit core group that you know will be supportive of you, no matter what! Hopefully you can already have that, and if not, it's never too late to develop one. These are people that you should be able to share your hopes, dreams and aspirations without fear of judgement, rebuttal and rejection.
As far as memory is concerned, my memory is pretty good... rather, I can remember anything I choose to put my attention to long enough... granted that I was sufficiently interested in the memory I'm recalling. IOW, if I didn't pay attention to it the first time, then it's gone... But I'm not sure if UT has anything to do with that, but with all the nutrients in the urine, it probably does!
Hope everything works out well for you, and that you choose wisely on who you include in your "secret". :-) Shiva is a Hindu God, and Shivambu is the act of drinking the waters of Shiva, Uropathy.
p.s. I hope I do as good of a job raising my children as you have... although, I have to admit, I do permit them to say "bad" words, simply because I allow them to explore at home rather than have to be secretive about it. Also, instead of "sh*t", how about "crap"... and explain it's a dice game.