I'm so sorry for all the two of you have been through. So many of us are frustrated that doctors dismiss our claims of side effects. It's baffling as to why the Mirena is so protected by health care providers. It's a sad state of affairs when so many women have to remove the Mirena themselves out of desperation because their health care provider refuses to believe it can cause any side effects.
I can only guess the drug reps feed them with lies about "no side effects", and the docs are too lazy/busy to do any research. Doctors are supposed to report side effects to the FDA. It's their obligation and the best way for the FDA to become informed about dangerous drugs, and the Mirena IS a drug.