I also believe in multiple lifetimes and soul families - many soul mates with whom we share our lifetimes, often family and lovers, etc.
You may feel an attraction to someone far more strongly to others, but this doesn't necessarily mean that is who you should be with. Some people who you are attracted to are bad for you. You have free will and you can choose whether to be with that person, and they with you.
I agree that there will be options for love with a soul mate, if you know how to make the right decisions. Also, you may even be happy with them long term if you know how to be happy in and of yourself.