" To think that I've gone through SO much missery ...not because of anything careless that I did to myself but because I trusted what was being done to me, is a bitter pill to take."
Yes, I understand how you feel. However to the partial defense of dentists, they probably did not have a good alternative to Amalgam when you were young. How many could afford gold? Infected teeth would have killed you long before now. However, now that we have composite fillings, there is no justification for use of amalgam.
If your Amalgam fillings are all gone, including under crowns, why not consider oral chelation? That is what I've used and literally thousands of others.
You take low doses of DMSA every few hours for 3 days in a row to clear some lead, mercury, etc from the blood. Then after a few weeks, you could add some alpha lipoic acid to it. ALA crosses into the brain and helps to clear inorganic mercury there.
There are some supplements that are important to take during the process such as antioxidants, a couple of minerals and support for the person's symptoms. In your case, from your description, adrenal support would probably have a really nice impact!!!
It does not have to be that expensive. You might be able to do it for $30 per month or less, especially if you are willing to go really slow with it. Some get DMSA and ALA from sites such as vrp.com. everythingspectrum.com caters to the somewhat unique needs of the autistic kids who are chelating, especially very low doses.
I suggest that you check the chelation groups here and at curezone for more information. I used the Cutler protocol which is quite conservative. I certainly encourage folks to have a doctor to monitor you during the process with followup testing, sometimes adrenal or thyroid meds, but that is not usually terribly expensive, certainly not like IV chelation which I'm not convinced is as safe and as effective as the low, frequent dose oral method.
Your symptom list sounds very, very similar to my close female friend's list. She suffered with it for decades and everyone told her she had PTSD, anxiety and hypothyroid; however it looks like mercury and maybe some cadmium were an underlying factor. She responded amazingly well to Amalgam removal and a few months of chelation; however she has also had some challenges along the way. Sh probably has a long way to go to get maximum benefit. We've documented her case here. http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/frequent-dose-chelation/message/83988