I read a really great book at the time I was going through my stuff, and it was really helpful to shifting my perspective. It was one of those reclaiming your self-esteem books. Wonderful, really wonderful... until I wasn't quite so low and went back to re-read. It seemed silly then:) But, if you are a reader, you might look into something like that for the perspective and inner critic issues.
I know that you are trying to retain your anomosity, but I am wondering if you would be willing to share your location (metro area or fairly large city nearby). I might be able to find you some contacts or groups that will be more supportive in person. I won't need your exact location, but I have fun doing searches, and might be able to help.