My husband was never needy, just denied, his family and myself tried to cut him out again yesterday, we thought people that we invited to my husbands house were more important than he was, we assumed he would compromise and leave until we called him home. As is said to assume makes an ass out of you and me.
He destroyed traditions that we built over thirty years without him. We just never included him in them, screamed, cajoled, acted hurt, cried and out right threatened violence on his person if he did not work every day 12 hours, we did not allow him a life, we thought we were doing the bidding of the community, well yesterday he tore our conceptions of what our rights in the matter were out of our chest. Embarrassed us, told opened the door and said if we did not like the rules he set in his home there was the street, put your feet on it and go where you can make the rules, He told his own father that the only arm I was going to be on yesterday was his and his fathers friends could take a flying leap. His father objected and was ejected. He said what has been the problem this year all you have to do is back down, My husband stopped backing down last year. His anger management councilors have given up. We called then today about yesterdays events. They said you have spent 39 years creating this monster you might have to live with it until the anger runs its course. They said and that's going to be a very long time considering he feels he is owed a back life of 32 years.