Re: If its not candida overgrowth then what is it?
Wow. You've been through so much and I hope one day you find full relief. Have you tried seeing a traditional chinese medicine practitioner? There may be a few around your area. There is also a place in Florida called the National Candida Center. Before they prescribe you anything, they perform tests to really pinpoint the cause of your symptoms in order to prescribe the most appropriate remedy. I'm sorry to hear about your financial situation, but maybe you can see if you can get a free consultation? Most first consultations for those places are pretty cheap. Do you have any friends that would be willing to help? I hope so.
Traditional western doctors overlook this & make you feel insane, while TCM practitioners practically specialize in this stuff. I strongly recommend seeing one. Make sure to check that they have experience with candida by either checking their site or calling beforehand. Naturopaths are great too. Ask them if they know about the particular strain of candida that you're dealing with in advance too. Apologies if you've already tried this.
I'm sorry to hear about your life partner leaving you, as well as your family shunning you. People can be so selfish sometimes.
You don't have to go through this alone however, so if you ever get the chance be sure to seek help from places that really know about candida + as well as its various strains. Wishing you luck and again I'm very sorry to hear about your situation.