It appears that you have misinterpreted me. What I am merely trying to implicate is that if you have desired intentions, to not be swayed by external influences. It is possible to stick to a program while still having compassion and love for others. The reality is that sometimes it takes discipline to achieve our goals. I understand when you say "eating out of love". Though it feels good, it can leave one indulging in actions which are not conducive to one's health. And since we don't live in a harmonius society, I am sure their are some ignorant attitudes flying around. Sometimes when people are trying to be hospitable, they are really sending you to the hospital.
With regards to our differences of perception, to each his own.