mooly-
how old is your stepdaughter? and what eating disorder does she have? i am a 21 y/o female who has suffered with every major form of eating disorders over the past 4 years or so. i, too, have been to counseling upon my parents request. i did learn some valuable things during that experience that your daughter may not be willing to share with you. i'd be glad to share my experiences and what i know with you- I just need to know how old she is and what she has....there is also a book that my therapist gave me to read. i can't think of the name, but im gonna search for it and let ya know!
-ks