Mooly- I totally agree with seangel. As hard and shocking as it may be that your daughter has an ED, try your best to not let it come across as anger or disappointment in HER (vs. just plain disappointment). I have struggled with various forms of ED's, and my parents' reactions to the situation only made it worse. And because of that, I no longer have a relationship with them. It is SO important that you comfort her, listen to her, and try to understand where she is coming from (even though it may not make sense to you, try).