Thanks for the advice, There are some issues that I have I would like to be more adventurous in bed and my wife isn't doesn't want to or isn't ready to make that step. I still have the urge for these experiences but I'm impatient to wait and let things happen naturally. One thing that I have started is working out on a regular basis to transfer that energy to a different place. I have dicussed my needs with my wife and she wants to accomodate, but two kids and a full time job can be exhausting at times. Which I understand, but if my wife is tired then I take care of myself, although it's a bit excessive - I agree.