question about self-gratification

Ok, i've been with my bf for about a year. So, we're lying in bed one night and talking about when we first started to date. He tells me that before we even got serious (were and item..before we even started kissing) he would spank the monkey to the thought of me. I didn't know what to say to that.."thanks"..."how sweet"..? Should i feel violated? I mean, it just got me thinking about why he was dating me..was is because he liked me or because he was sexually attracted to me..both?

Anyhow i guess my question is, is it normal for a person to spank the monkey while thinking about someone they aren't sexually involved with..if so, do you people feel it lowers any respect for that person they're thinking of? This whole thing hasn't affected how i feel about him or our relationship because it's in the past and things rock now..i'm just trying to understand it. Tweet