I am faced with a dilema and seek advise. I have betrayed my lover whom I plan to start a wonderful life with. I shall start from the beginning... Playing games in the bedroom led to a video being produced which I burnt to a CD without the consent of my partner.
As I am sure you may have guessed by now my girlfriend found the CD and gave me the opportunity to tell her what I did, which I didn't, I lied. Big mistake!
Never once were my intentions malicious. On the contrary, I planned to surprise the women I care very deeply about and reproduce the CD, our CD,and surprise her. Something special between two consenting adults.
Have I lost her trust? I know now in highensight that I should have asked her permission.
I totally understand her perspective and her feeling of violation.