What does that have to do with being safe? I can love someone to death but if they are swinging both ways I need to love myself more and ask them to remove themselves from my space. You should love yourself more than others, otherwise you make stupid choices. Why should I contract AIDS? And I know that you can contract AIDS from ANYONE not just gays and bisexuals, but the fact is that when your husband is swinging both ways you are increasing your chances of contracting a serious illness. What's love got to do with it?