You caled them conservative, but they are not. I have same experience with lots of people here and i call them "immature".
Each and every message indicating "Possessivness", they call it love, but really "they possess eachother" and they will give very beautifull reasons, like "your man can get AIDS and so on. and you still like him.. actually they want to say why dont you "kick" him.. even you are saying again and again that you are HAPPY with your man.. but who cares.. I dont know what people really want.. do you guys want her to punish her hubby?? or send him to alkatraz?
I am 100% agree with you that "love means making happy to someone", but it is very hard for the people to understand it.. they can be logical and they can be true in some extent, but they are missing the beauty of a "Relationship".. for them relation means "you do this then i will do this, you dont sleep with the lady and i will not sleep with any men".. it sounds like some sort or technical arragement, and they call it love.
Please do not go away from this forum because we need people like you. No more fights.. just forget the KIDS..