You got to figure out new communication approaches with your hubby and if that does not work seek out a counslor.It is your job to shape up your hubby with sex and other things too.My hubby knows how much and how I want my nipples rubbed and sucked and he listens to me and yes I listen to him about his wants. You got to draw the line via new communication methods, counselling or simply pulling the string on him. No way in heck should you continue on being so unhappy in sex . And none of it your fault too . You are a decent girl and deserve so much better.Love.