The man is head of the household. He is told by God that he is to love his woman "as Christ loves the church." Well that's an awful lot because Christ died for His church.
If a man loves his wife so much her would give his life for her then she is truly a blessed woman and in turn the man will be blessed. As the head goes...so does the body. When a man obeys God and submits himself to Him and models this behavior to his family, the wife and children fall into place.
What woman wouldn't submit to a husband who loves her this way? You'd have to be nuts.