i agree, it feels as if we're falling into a rut already and I don't know how to stop it from happening. He's pretty sensitive about "talks", he feels like he does everything wrong when I start bringing up things he's not doing. Anyway, so I've been hinting around about it here and there. I tried giving him a back massage the other night and told him I wanted some time alone with him (mentioned a few things I might do when we had some time alone), told him the other day that I went "bikini bare". I've definitely been trying to get him thinking about it but he just doesn't seem to have much interest. I've gotten to the point where I think I'm just going to get a little more forceful :) and if that doesn't work... well, I'm in trouble.