I'm sorry to hear about your sad predicament. It's obviously a very dysfunctional relationship. However, the fact that unhealthy and unproductive situations exist does not negate the reality of good, solid and healthy relationships.
In my opinion, (for which no one here has asked ;-/ ) , a bad result of feminism has been bitter, angry women, and wimpy, irresponsible men. In these situations everyone is maladjusted and no one is the winner.