It doesn't matter if you or the other woman continues on in this manner, YOU THE GUY will be blamed. I didn't make the rules, just play the game by them. You can't win either way, plain and simple. It is always the guy's fault because we have the ultimate say-so, one way or the other. And actually she may be a great friend to your wife. Just because she made a play doesn't mean anything other than what most guys throughout the ages have said before they cheated..."honest honey, she doesn't mean a thing to me".