maybe you do have some of the most real advice, but it sure isn't gonna be taken that way when the presentation part is missing.
you sound like a very direct person, and altho you might want the best for people here, they do not know how to interpret some of your directness. what good is it if they see it as borderline arrogance or cruelty rathern then being 'real'? Most people when hurt seek sympathy not harsh words, no matter how wise...most people, from my experience, who give out harsh reality cannot stomach sympathy or gentleness because they are fearful of it. make sense?
i too have learned a valuable lesson in this from someone on the forums here, so they are useful in more then one way...when you are actually ready to do the work!