I am a 29yr old divorced mom of 1, in love with a 20yr old man. I do not know how to have a heathly relationship, how to love without control. How do I love him, trust him and allow him to be 20 at the same time. I live in a constant state of paranoia and fear. Am I a passing fancy, could he possibly mean what he says at his age. Am I making a fool of myself.............. I don't know what to do, I think I'm clingy and codependant. And I do not want to ruin this....help me!!!!!!!!!