not at all! it's not about giving up, it's about being responsible for ourselves and learning how to love ourselves so we can in turn do that for our partner.
it's not good to rebound from one relationship to another or stay for the sake of not hurting the other when we really don't know if we want to be with that person. maybe i'm wrong, but some of us have been very hurt and need to sort out stuff before having relationships.
it's like staying off Sugar when you have candida, or food when you are cleansing your intenstines...or sex if we are too addicted to it...it's called abstinance, but it's not done with the intention to punish anyone, just to get clear on the real intentions.