This isn't the one. What? You wanted me to ease into it? No way...you need to get out of this dead-end "relationship" yesterday. This charade you call a romance is nothing of the sort. Brutal. How many hints from her do you need? You're young, you're somewhat ambitious, you're...well, you're young, why waste your best years with someone who obviously doesn't see you as Mr. Right? Take your medicine and end it. Ask for the ring back, if you need it that bad, but deliver the message in no uncertain terms. You think this is painful to live with now? What if this behavior were going on with two kids and a mortgage!? This may be the luckiest day of your life, guy! Absolutely. I could go on and on about how long-term relationships are just a waste of time...but why? She doesn't want to marry you and you know what, if the truth be known, she really isn't what you dreamed of, either. Is she? My bride was gushing with positive emotion when I asked her to marry The Mtn, that's the response you want. That's the response a guy HAS TO HAVE. If it's anything short of that, move on. There are plenty of good-looking honies out there that WILL give you that response, if you play your role honestly and offer what she is looking for. Your job is to find her. Your job is to deliver happiness to her during the dating phase of life. Your job is to treat her special. Believe me, you do that and you'll attract a cutie who will fulfill your expectations in return. She's out there...but as long as you're stuck here, she'll never know you exist.