Thanks for the advice, we talked a few hours ago, shortly after posting my message here and decided it would be best for us to time travel back to when we were friends. She is giving me the ring back, and we will continue to talk as friends and see how that works out, maybe at some point we can rekindle what once was, butfor now, we both understand why this is a necessary step. So thanks for your advice. It's just a difficult thing to do after 8 years of relationship.