kind response to a kind woman.
You know, it's not for any of us "strangers" to say how a great gal like you with cancer should or should not date. How many of us know the feeling with all the responsibilities facing you? Very, very few. I don't. You do have the support of all of us here that encourage for a living. That's my specailty. You have played life with the cards dealt you, and for that you receive my highest compliment. You are a woman that deserves the best guy possible. IF that means dating around with limited emotional attachment, so be it. If that means being ultra-selective...hey, who amongst us would argue? My assumption, based solely on life's experiences and street saavy, is that dealing with cancer on a daily basis, dealing with the raising of kids on a daily basis, AND WHATEVER LIFE YOU HAVE AFTER THAT is truly exhausting. Can I get an "Amen" on that?!! Maybe, just maybe, dating for the sake of dating isn't a top priority at this time in life. At least not until a deserving gem walks your way. Are the environments you put yourself in attracting decent guys? Is your emotional state an attractive element of you? You offer a guy amazing positives, that's a given. After you examine what you can offer another, then and only then would I go forth. Don't dwell on the cancer with new boyfriends. The more you lessen the severity of the topic, the more at ease a guy will be with you, and thus, leading to a deeper bond. He will concentrate on you and not you with cancer. I'll tell you the absolute truth here: if I had met my honey with all her outstanding qualities of looks, spirit, religious-conviction, positive outlook, sweetness and such BUT she had cancer...I'd still date her (no matter what the future holds) and eventually marry her. She is worth it, without a doubt. See, there are guys out there that would go the extra mile...not an overwhelming amount, but some. And you know what, you only need ONE. That ONE just may need you as much as you need him...have you ever thought of that?